Introspection Questions for Singles

Marriage

Do I want to get married?

How attractive is marriage to me? (On a scale of 1-10.)

What fears do I have about marriage?

What is my model in marriage? Whose marriage do I hope to copy, if I could?

Which model in marriage do I want to avoid?

Which middos do I have that will help me build the marriage I long for?

Which middos do I have that are challenging to the marriage I dream of?

Which middos do I have that could lead to the marriage I dread?

Which middos do I have that would prevent me from falling into the negative patterns of the

marriage I don’t want?

What will I be able to do in my inner life once I am married that I can’t do now? (i.e., not

externals, but what can be different about the inner me?)

Partner

What is the ideal dream partner I would like to marry?

What is the minimum “good enough” in a partner that I would be happy marrying? What would he need to be like to be “good enough”?

What are the most important qualities I want our marriage to have?

How do I most want to express myself within my marriage? Which qualities do I have that I wantto be able to share in the context of marriage?

Myself

How lovable am I?

Who loves me today?

Do I love myself?

What is lovable about me?

Does Hashem love me? Why or why not?

Do I love other people? Whom do I Iove, and why? Whom do I not love, and why?